I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business.
Instead, I have called you friends,
for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
The other day I was walking home from work in the dark and cold in my Turkish tundra coat, scarf around my neck, head wrapped in a fleece head tube, gloves, boots… The street was covered in ice and snow and the wind chilling my bones at almost zero. And the Lord said to me
“Think on what makes you warm.”
And my friend with Doreen came to my mind. And so I began thinking on what a gift our friendship is. To have someone who you can count on anytime. To have someone to laugh with, rejoice with… and cry with. For us sharing the music – to work on a song until we sail together through all the dynamics of sound and emotion and harmony – it is such a treasure! Thinking on such treasure, such wealth – is beyond measure and warmed me up on that cold walk home. I realized the cold could not really touch me. Not really.
I think that friendship does not get talked about enough. There are many books about marriage, parenting, mentoring, teaching, ministry, etc. What about friendship? I believe every good relationship has friendship at it core. That is why I LOVE John 15:15. Jesus calls me friend. God – is my friend. Wow. Our Lord, is certainly – our Lord, and Savior, and counselor and healer, and all those powerful things to which we bow in humility and awe – but He wants us to know He is our friend.
What does that mean? The Lord in His great love wants intimacy – and you cant be truly intimate if you are subordinate. There will always be a wall. Jesus, the irresistible, takes down the wall entrusting us with everything He has learned from his Father – our Father. It is a mystery that God wants our devotion and surrender and worship and our friendship. When I pause on this thought my heart weeps at the beauty. How beautiful is our God?
Friendship is a gift – to believers and not-yet-believers alike. But, friendship between friends of Jesus – now, that is something!
One time when Doreen and I were praying with the musicians before a coffee house concert, one of the guys said –
“You should call yourselves 3D –
Doreen, Dianne & D’Lord”
That’s a great description of any friendship when both are walking with the Lord as their friend. Its fulfilling, sustaining and beyond earthly family because it is the family eternal.
We talk about God all the time. He is the focus of our speaking, our prayer, our song and our life together. We seek His will together. We confess to each other our struggles, our weakness and our sins. The music is fun and worshipful – but without the deep friendship it really would not have lasted – or mean very much at all.
God the Father, The Son and the Holy Spirit are best pals. The have their own amazing personalities distinct and powerful and yet they move together as one – deferring to one another. We are created in God’s image so this unity is for us also. John understood this and says –
…so they may be one as we are one.